Grandchildren are truly the most precious loved ones for most of us. As grandparents, we have the inborn desire to assist their parents to provide the safest, cleanest, most loving and peaceful environment for their growth and development.
Sometimes we will be seen as bossy, know-it-all, or even controlling, depending on our past interactions and our current relationships with our child and their mate. You can go elsewhere to find out all the ins and outs, but I would suggest that you, the grandparent, do whatever it takes to 'make the peace' if you have offended and get some assistance (i.e., counseling, EFT, whatever)in clearing your own 'issues' so that you can be considered your grandbaby's mommy's and/or daddy's friend and loving family member. Then you can team up together to offer the absolute best loving, healthy, safe, and peaceful environment possible for your grandbaby. It all starts with you (and me, of course-- I am not saying it's the easiest road to tread).
Open your mind to all the different and improved methods of caring for children today. Support your grandbaby's parents in their strong love for their child and their desire to make their baby's first home a safe and healthy little love nest. Take a look at the video at the top of this page and suggest that you can help out with providing some of the safest cleaners and organics if your kids are up for that. If you think you know more about how thing 'should be', rather than should-ing all over the young family, offer "suggestions" for changes. Use the following statement sometimes if you think it is true, "I know that you probably see me as a little bossy- nosey- aggressive- controlling- take-charge-, and I apologize for that. I love (Baby’s Name) and you all so much that I just want to do whatever I can to help. Sometimes in my enthusiasm I forget that I am not the parent, but the grandparent. Please let me know what I can do to help out on the team!" I can pretty much guarantee that if you use this statement (or similar) before there is a crisis, that you will enhance--or start to grow-- an amazing relationship with the entire little family. All the best!
P.S. If you are an older sibling, best friend, auntie, etc. to the new parents, you are also welcome to offer the above supports.